This blog is for all those victims and survivors who don't feel like they can ever be heard. If you have been raped, molested, sexual assaulted, or sexually harmed in any way then feel free to tell your story here. You will not be judged.
I know personally how hard it is to say that I was raped and I never had anyone to go to in my life. I want everyone here to know I will always listen. I feel your pain and I understand.
Remember, you didn't deserve it.
 | lightmywings asked: I was sexually assaulted by my brother for years. He is still in my life. I want to remove him more than anything but I am so afraid of what will happen if I do. He controls me still in a way... He has ruined any chances of me being close to my other siblings. He has brainwashed strangers and my family into thinking it was mutual. I hate him. He doesn't realize that he's a monster. He manipulates me to this day. I don't know what to do sometimes... |
 | stylishgambino asked: I was sexually molested at 6 years old, My biological father left me around that age too & never gave a call, birthday card, nothing. My stepdad put me in cold showers when I misbehaved, now when cold water hits my skin, I'm brought back to those times and I become terrified. I almost drowned a year after the molestation, last year I witnessed my stepfather trying to kill himself. I'm damaged with a past that haunts me daily & constantly I fight back tears. Will someone understand my pain ? :( |
 | Anonymous asked: I was repeatedly sexually assaulted by a friend". I kept silent for almost two years because I thought it was my fault. He berated me daily in person and over facebook. I was terrified of him, and ashamed of what he did to me. I shoved the rage, fear, and shame down until last week. I thought I had no right to those feelings because I wasn't beaten or raped. I still feel like I could've stopped it. I have nightmares. He tainted so much for me. |
| Anonymous asked: I was coerced into having sex with a man I considered to be a friend/not a threat. He had forcefully tried to make me go further than I was willing to and would stop just on the cusp of physically assaulting me. This happened for months. I liked him, so I didn't know how to handle it. He called me constantly and wouldn't leave my house when I asked him to. I got so scared of him I eventually gave in and let him have sex with me. I cried the whole time. Was this technically rape? |
 | shoot-for-the-eternal-sun asked: Thank you for having this blog. I'm not ashamed to show my face. Last year, I was a victim of rape myself. I had barely met the guy (we met online), and he lived in my area. He dolled me up and called me sweet things like baby, gorgeous, etc, and I fell for it- badly. We wound up meeting and going to my best friend's house (another girl). He assaulted her, and was about to rape her. I told him to back off... so instead the no-good asshole took me instead. I reported it. He was never convicted. |
| Anonymous asked: Hi! I just wanted to tell you my happy news! I haven't cut myself in two weeks now! And the urge is starting to fade and so far so good! I actually might be okay without it--odd to hear that from myself. Still slightly bittersweet though too, I was so used to punishing myself due to him. But, I'm on the right road! And more exclamation points! |
| Anonymous asked: I was drugged, raped, and held at gunpoint by a man, with my son in another room, when I was 17. My boyfriend, and the father of my son, told me I wanted it and just cheated on him. I still feel guilty and I'm 31. I know the decisions I made put me in that position, but that doesn't mean it's my fault. Why do I still feel like it is? |
| Anonymous asked: To the anon being arrogant enough to play judge as to how 'bad' other people's abuse is - just stop. Survivors get enough judgement from the rest of society for daring to stand up and say what happened to us; we don't need that prescriptive bullshit from other survivors. Abusers, online AND offline, use all kinds of manipulation to hurt their victims, and none of the effects are diminished 'just' because there isn't physical contact. And this is from a person who's survived years of physical CSA |
| Anonymous asked: The last ask you posted with the girl who thinks that she's been 'sexually abused' online is BULLSHIT. She went through harassment and she could have exited out of the window any damn time she wanted. How DARE she try to equate her experiences online to actual sexual abuse, which you can't just click a big red X to get out of. She has no fucking idea what rape really is and I'm furious and appalled that you would post something like that on a page for SURVIVORS OF RAPE. 1. As a survivor myself, I don’t always read every single word that someone asks because can you imagine how triggered I would get every time I read one of these? 2. No one is here to judge what someone else has been through. I don’t care how minor you think it is, or how “bullshit” you think it is, WHO ARE YOU TO JUDGE? I understand where you are coming from, but I’m just as appalled at you. Control yourself. This is my blog for helping people, it’s my decision what I post. Not yours. |
| Anonymous asked: I'm really tired of everyone telling me that I was never sexually abused, just because I've never been physically touched or assaulted in any way. I've been through a lot of sexual abuse online. Guys would wait until I was really upset and crying and not thinking straight, then they'd talk me into having cybersex. I initiated it a few times with one guy, but if he were a real man, he'd realize I was just upset and he shouldn't have agreed to cybersex with a girl ten years younger than him. |
“The Joyful Heart Foundation works to foster a community that turns toward the issues of sexual assault, domestic violence and child abuse. Such a community, empowered with knowledge, courage and compassion, can support survivors of this violence and engage in an open dialogue about how to collaboratively end the cycle of violence and abuse.”
(Source: joyfulkayla)
| Anonymous asked: Part 2;When he finally did stop, I became very upset. I asked him why he didn't stop when I told him to, and he immediately got defensive. "You're making it sound like I took advantage of you, I'm not that kind of guy." I started crying and all he could say to me was "I thought when you said 'stop' you meant we were taking a break and we could finish later." He made me feel so guilty, I just shut up and did what I was told for a few more weeks. |
| Anonymous asked: Part1: A guy I was dating for about a month was really into doing anal. I told him I didn't like the idea of it, as I've had things of that nature forced on me before without permission. He constantly asked me to try things with him and made me feel so guilty about not wanting to, that I gave in eventually and told him I'd TRY it. I hated it. I told him to stop, I told him it hurt, but he didn't. |
| Anonymous asked: Part 3;I just wanted to be loved. I'd just gotten out of a serious relationship, maybe he knew that all I wanted to hear was "I love you". I'm still confused about it all. I was obviously uncomfortable and in pain. I didn't want to do it in the first place, he knew that, but I gave in... I told him to stop. I feel so weak. Was this my fault? Was I sexually assaulted? I feel like there's a gray area here. :( |
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